Wednesday, August 21, 2024

Reception : Cuisine



In the name of Allah (s.w.t) the most Beneficent and Merciful

Peace be upon Mohammad e Mustafa and his progeny   

                                                                   

The wedding reception List of food items

                List of Food Items for the dinner/ reception 22nd May at Paigah Gardens

         Starters

1.                       1.  Sheekh kawab

2.                       2.   Stick Kawab

3.                       3.  Veg Spring rolls

4.                      4.   Chicken Spring rolls

5.                       5.   Fish

6.                        And KFC

         Main Course

         1.    Marg and Naan

         2.    Romali Roti

         3     Chicken: - Tandoori-Butter-Achari-65

        4.    Mutton: - Lagan or Dum ka Gosh

        5.    Biryani: - Sufyani and (zafrani)

        6.    Mirchi ka Salan

        7.    Dahi ki Chutney

        8.    Russian Salad

        9.    Green Salad

      10.Chutney’s: -Two types

      11. Sweets: -Sabit Qurbani (with cream or Mango Delight)- Kashmiri Rabdi/Sunfest pudding

            with dry fruits. 

     12. Tea – Pan-Cool Drink- Water Bottles- Paper Napkins on every table (compulsorily)- 

            Soap to wa5 Flower, vegetable and other decorations also   

                                                                     VEGETARIAN MENU FOR 30 GUESTS

DULHA TABLE

1. Chicken Drumsticks

2. Gurde fry

3. Lamb Legs (dasts) with chandi ka warq

 4. Sabit Fish

 .    .    Flower, vegetable and other  decorations also  

Tuesday, August 13, 2024

Nikah Ceremony

In the name of Allah (s.w.t) the most Beneficent and Merciful

Peace be upon Mohammad e Mustafa and his progeny   

Nikah Ceremony
Nikah Ceremony


اللّهُمّ صَلّ عَلَى مُحَمّدٍ وَآلِ مُحَمّدٍ

                                                                                              By Dr. Syeda Farhat Fatima

Overview:  According to ‘the New Encyclopaedia of Islam and the Oxford Dictionary of Islam, ‘Nikah is the term by which marriage is referred to in the Quran’.  Islamic Law defines Nikah as a civil contract whose main function is to render sexual relations between a man and woman licit. This ceremony holds an important place of honour among Muslims.  A successful marriage requires falling in love with the same person again and again. The Nikah starts with the marriage intention which is followed by sending a proposal which can be initiated by either party in Islam.  In some cases, a mediator brings both the parties together in initial talks. After the acceptance of the proposal. The intention of Nikah is pronounced to the public which is called Ishhar (Letting know). Then the Nikah is performed after all arrangements.  The Mehr is an obligatory gift from the groom to the bride. The wali is the custodian or guardian of the bride (usually father) who gives away his daughter in Nikah to the groom. This paper tries to highlight the importance of Nikah in Islam and the way it is performed in Southern Asia in a Shiite way.

Key words:   Katb Al-Kitaab/Marriage Ceremony, Nikah (Marriage), Mehr (Dower), Khutba (a sermon in which the official marriage contract and the rules and regulations of bride and groom are read as per the rules of Quran, Vakil (advocate), Gawah (Witnesses)

Nikah Ceremony

The Holy Quran states in Chapter IV and Verse/Ayat 21 that “Marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman”.

Marriage literally means living together or union of the opposite sexes.  The Arabic term of the marriage is Nikah. It is the religious ceremony required by Islamic law to unite a Muslim man and woman in holy matrimony. This ceremony holds an important place of honour among Muslims. In Islam, Nikah is a legal contract between two people.  Both the bridegroom and the bride are to consent to the marriage of their own free wills.  A formal, binding contract most specifically on paper is considered integral to a religiously valid Islamic marriage, and outlines the rights and responsibilities of the bridegroom and the bride.

Nikah is considered a blessing bestowed upon us by Allah (s.w.t) in Islamic Sharia.  It (Nikah) brings together two people who complete each other and their deen.  They are said to be the clothes of each other.

Your spouses are a garment for you as you are for them.” (Quran, 2:187)

Nikah brings them together in a physical as well as emotional bond which they both share with each other as partners.  It is also a way to keep the society going in a legalised way through the blessing of Children.

Our Beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him and his progeny) encouraged his Ummah (Muslim Community) to marry and fulfil their sexual desires and urges in lawful ways.  Nikah is a means to gratify Physical, sexual and emotional needs of a person.  In Islam, the male-female contact before marriage is prohibited and forced marriages are considered invalid. Nikah should be by the consent of both the parties i.e., Bride and the Bridegroom.

Quran says in the chapter 30:21“And among His signs in this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in peace and tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts).”

It becomes an obligation on the Groom to take the full accountability of his spouse, her life, her happiness, her reverence, her religion, character and in return the bride promises to take care of him and love him wholeheartedly/unconditionally, make him happy.  Both (i.e., Bride and the Bridegroom) should be loyal, honest, sincere and committed to each other in their relationship and should not deceive each other in their day-to-day dealings as well as sexual and emotional dealings.  They should never do anything which will hurt each other’s sentiments.  They both must become more responsible individuals by helping each other to nurture and grow. Try to avoid doing something which displeases their partner and becomes a source of unhappiness for the partner.

Mehr: Maher (alternately transliterated as mahr, mahar, mehr, or mehrieh) in Islamic law, is a gift or contribution made by the husband-to-be to his wife-to-be, for her exclusive property, as a mark of respect for the bride, and as recognition of her independence. While the mahr is often money, it can also be anything agreed upon by the bride such as jewellery, home goods, furniture, a dwelling or some land or a promise of Haj, Umra or Ziarat (Visitation) of Karbala, Najaf and Shaam (Syria). According to the Shari`ah, the mahr should also be reasonable. It is a woman’s right and it signifies a husband’s love and appreciation for his wife. In the Qur’an it is called sadaq, which means “a token of friendship.” It is also called nihlah, which means “a nice gift or present.” Mahr also signifies a husband’s commitment to take care of his wife’s financial needs (nafaqah)

In Shia Islamic perspective Mehr is usually in consideration with 14 Masoomeen i.e., 1400 or 14,000 or 14,0000… so on.  Some people also go for one Lakh Mehr or one lakh twenty-five thousand Mehr.  Usually, Mehr is given on the spot while Nikah Ceremony is going on. The Mehr which is given immediately during Nikah on time is said to be Muajjal.  Some people give it at a later date in understanding with there would to be spouse then it is said to be Ghair e Muajjal (Not on time but will be given on a later date). 

Nikah Ceremony: If Nikah ceremony is done individually i.e., without Rukhsati (Rukhsati will be done after some stipulated time i.e., six months or one year later) than before the Nikah ceremony perform a Majlis ( a religious mourning congregation recalling the tragedy of Karbala) and afterwards a Jashn ( Happy Qasida’s are recited in the remembrance of Ahl Al-Bayt) should be done along with Nazar (Offering) of Chowdah (14) Masoomeen and Khade Manje (a traditional custom) and in this custom both i.e., Bridegroom or Bride should be applied haldi by one or two family members in their respective homes. Khade Manje is a cultural custom and it is not obligatory it is optional.

If Nikah ceremony is done in continuity with Manje, Sanchak Mehndi than marriage starts with Sainak (i.e., the nazr of Bibi Fatima Zehra) along with the nazar of Maula Mushkil Kusha Ali, Majlis, Manje, Sanchak Mehndi, Nikah, Rukhsati, Chowthi and Valima. (Note: Manje, Sanchak-Mehndi, Chowthi are traditional customs and not a part of Islamic Sharia).  Nikah, Rukhsati and Valima are a part of Islamic Sharia.

Important rules to be followed

Go into Nikah ceremony with a girl for her righteousness and akhlaq (ethics and manners).  Do not marry a girl for her money or beauty.  Because if you go for money and beauty in a girl – you will lose both of them in marriage.

It is important for Muslim men and women to have their marriages and divorces properly documented. Islam teaches fairness and justice in all cases.
At five occasions it is recommended to host dinner 1. After Nikah (Uroosi) 2. Birth of a child 3. Circumcision 4. When you Purchase a new home/or enter into a new home 5. After returning back home from Haj.

Nikah is mostly held in a mosque or Marriage function hall but sometimes at home too.  The bride’s father who is her Wali or guardian takes care of her interests.  He arranges religious cleric and other necessary things for her Nikah.  Usually, a religious cleric from Bridegroom and another religious cleric from Bride’s side initiates the Nikah.  Initially both the Groom and Bride are seated in different places.  Groom among men with his relatives and friends. Bride among women with her relatives and friends. It is recommended that both bridegroom and bride recite Quran before and while Nikah ceremony is going on.  The bridegroom can recite Surah Tawhid (also known as Surah Ahad), Surah Qadr or Surah Kausar.  The bride should recite Surah Yousuf most preferably or Surah Maryam or the other Surahs. Both should pray for their happy married lives.  It is recommended that the bridegroom and the bride at the time of Nikah should be in Wuzu (the minor ablution). It is recommended that the bride should not apply any make-up till Nikah ceremony goes on and after the Nikah she can apply.  Some brides do Wuzu before applying makeup and go for the Nikah ceremony.  Anyway, applying make-up or not is an individual choice and differs from person to person

During the Nikah the cleric takes the consent of bride first and then of the groom.  Both Bride and the Bridegroom has to sign the marriage contract.  The Mehr amount and the name of the groom and bride are told respectively to the bride and groom.  Both of them sign the contract.  After the Nikah ceremony marriage khutbah is recited by the cleric.  After the Nikah is over all the guests present in the Nikah will make dua or Pray for the ‘Happy Married Life’ of the couple.

Dress of Nikah:   In Southern Asian Traditions Usually the dress of Nikah for bride is green or white coloured. Dress of bride (can be any of these: Gharara, Sharara, Khada Dupatta or Saree) with Maiser (chader) and accessories like purse or clutch, chappal, Chudiyaan etc.,) are sent to the bride by bridegrooms’ side and vice-versa Sherwani, pyjama, chappal and other accessories are sent by brides’ parents to the bridegroom. (Some families of bride and bridegroom request the other party to buy the dress themselves and will pay the bill after the bride or groom presents the bill.)

 If Nikah ceremony is done few days before the Reception or Rukhsati than only Nikah dress is send to the other party.  But on the other hand, Nikah and Reception (Rukhsati) are done on the same day than on Sanchak and Mehndi Day (a traditional custom), Nikah Dress with other dresses in the odd order like 5,7,9 trays are sent to the other party.

If the Nikah is performed without the consent of both or any one of the parties (i.e., bride or groom) than it becomes invalid.  The main condition in Nikah is that both the bride and the groom should consent to the marriage.

Nikah should not be a secret affair and it should be preferably performed in front of the guests as a formal announcement.

There are also some unwritten rules and conditions of the nikah which are to be taken in consideration while Nikah is performed like a) both the bride and the bridegroom should be of marriageable age.  b) No Dowry demands should be made by the groom’s family.  c) the financial support of the wife is the duty of the husband.  d) Both the partners do not have right to cut down ties of their spouse with his/her parents. e) no marriage is complete without dower or Maher which the groom has to give his wife as a gift.

The Nikah ceremony is divided into four parts

Note: (Traditional)When the bride starts from her home towards mosque or marriage hall, she should wear a red Madara chadar to wade bad eyes. (Madara is a course cloth)

Part I: Chawal ki Rasm (traditional custom not obligatory): When the bridegroom enters the Mosque or function hall.  He is brought with his parents, cousins and relatives to the section where the bride is seated.  The bride is also escorted towards the door with some cousins and friends.  A Madara chadar is placed in between both the groom and the bride as pardah.  Rice (Chawal) are thrown by the bridegroom on bride’s head and again bride reciprocates.  This happens three times than both are shown their faces to each other. It is recommended to both the bridegroom and bride to recite Salawat when he/she looks towards the face of there would to be partner. The idea behind this rasm is that before Nikah both the bride and the bridegroom see each other’s faces. (So that they are completely aware of the situation and have fully consented to their marriage without any external influence.)  After seeing the face of the bride, the bridegroom returns to his Mardani or Gent’s section.

Part II:  This is the most important part of the Nikah Ceremony.

a) The Nikah ceremony starts with Hadees e Kisa and it is followed by Jashn.  (Optional)

b) There are two Maulvi’s (one from brides’ side and the other from bridegrooms’ side). 

c) Witnesses: There will be four witnesses (two from brides’ side and two from bridegrooms’ side) (preference wise one witness will be father of the bride and groom and the next will be anyone from grandfather, uncle, brother, relative or friend).  The qualifications of the witnesses are that they should be sane, of full age i. e, adult and Muslims.

d) It is Sunnat to perform Nikah at night.

e) Nikah should not be performed on Qamar dar Aqrab or tahtul sha’aah.

(Qamar dar Aqrab refers to the moon being in the zodiacal sign of Scorpio which happens 2-3 days per month (in that the moon circulates through all the zodiacal signs in one lunar month) and can be determined via astronomical software or eyeballs.)

Tahtul sha’aah means Solar eclipse or Lunar eclipse.

Grooms Maulvi should ask permission from Groom to recite Nikah and Bride’s Maulvi should ask permission from Bride’s father as he is her Wali or Guardian.  In case, father is not present then the role of Wali is played by her next closest Mahram who includes to be her grandfather, brother, Uncle and sometimes even son etc., In some situations the Wali or guardian is not present in the country where the bride resides than she cannot take a non-Muslim as her Wali because Quran says;

The Holy Quran: Chapter An: Nisa-4:141:  Allah will never grant to the unbelievers a way of Authority over the believers”

Note: At least one week or one day or few days before the Katb Al-Kitaab/Marriage Ceremony; documentation work should be done i.e., the correct names of the Bride and Bridegroom, according to their passports should be filled in the Nikah contract to avoid last minute hassles.  Both the guardian of the Bride (Dulhan) and Bridegroom (Dulha) and his guardian should go to the Maulana (Vakil) and fill the correct names and only signatures and minor work should be left for the marriage ceremony day.

The way of asking permission with the Dulhan/Bride during Marriage ceremony/Katb Al-Kitab by the Vakil is like this “I being your Vakil I am performing your Nikah with X (Name of Groom) who is the son of F (Name of Groom’s father) with Rs. 14,000/- as per current currency. Do You Agree?  The bride has to give her consent.  Thrice he (vakil) asks.  She has to give her consent.  Afterwards she has to sign the Nikah papers.  Same Procedure is done with Bridegroom.  After consent and signatures are taken by both Bride and Groom.  The Maulvi/ Vakil starts the Khutba.   

 Khutba Transliteration

Bismillah Ir Rahman Nir Raheem

Alhamd-o-Lillahe Iqrarun be naemat-e-hi wa la Ilaha - Illal lahu Iqlasun Le wah-daniyat-e-hi wa-sallal-lahu Ala Mohammadin Syedi barriyatehi wa alal Asfiyaii min Itrat-e-hi Amma badu faqad kaana min fazlil lahe alal aname an aghna hum bil halale Anil harame faqala Subhanahu tabaraka wa taala wa qualuhul haqqu wa ankehul ayyami minkum was saalehena min ibadekum        

Wa imayekum inn yaku nu Fuqara-aa yughnehimullahu min fazlehi wallahu waasiyun aalimun waqala Rasoolullahe Sallal-lahu-alaihi-wa-alaihi tana kahu wa tana salu tak uru fa inni ubahii bekummul amama yaumul qiyamati wa lu bassiqti wa sallal-lahu-ala Mohammadin wa alehi tayyabenath-taherina. 

If both man and woman are adults than first the vakil of woman will start the segha and says to the vakil of man.  He says as follows: 

Surat Awwal

1.   Brides Vakil say: Ankahtu muvakilati muwakilaka alal mahril maalume (Transliteration from Arabic Text)

Nikah mein diya maine vakil karne wali apni ko vakil karne wale tere ko upar mehr maloom ke. (Urdu Translation)

I have given in Nikah my client (bride) D/0 to your client (groom) S/o on the stipulated Mehr- mehr amount is pronounced (English Translation)

     B. Grooms vakil says: Khabiltun Nikaha Le Mua-kili Alal Mehril Maloome

Qabul kiya maine Nikah ko vaste vakil karne wale apne ke upar Mehr-e-maloom ke

I accept the Nikah of your client (Bride) D/o on behalf of my client (groom) S/o on stipulated Mehr which is known – Amount of Mehr is pronounced (English Translation)

Surat Dusri

2.   Brides vakil says: Ankahtu mu-vakkelaka muvak-kelati alal-mehril Maloome

Nikah mein diya maine Mauk-kali  tere ko Maukila apni ko upar mehr-e-maloom ke (Urdu Translation)

I have given my client (Bride) D/o in the Nikah of your client (Groom) S/o under stipulated Mehr Amount- The amount of mehr is pronounced. (English Translation)

B.   Groom’s vakil says: Qabiltun Nikaha le Mau-vakili alal-mehril Maloome

Qubool kiya maine Nikah ko vaste mauk-kil apne ke aur mehr-e-maloom ke (Urdu Translation)

I accept the Nikah on behalf of my client (Groom) s/o on the known stipulated Mehr- the amount of Mehr is pronounced (English Translation)

Surat Teesri

3.   Brides Vakil says: Ankatu muvakilati min muwakilaka Alal Mehril Maloome

Nikah mein diya maine Maukila apni ko Maukil tere ko upar Mehr e Maloom ke (Urdu Translation)

I have given in Nikah my client (Bride’s name) D/o to your client (Groom’s name) S/o on the known stipulated amount of Mehr-Mehr is pronounced. (English Translation)

B. Groom’s Vakil says:  Qabiltun Nikaha Le mauwak-e-li haza alal Mehril Maloome

Qubool kiya maine Nikah ko vaste Maukil Apne ke upar Mehr e Maloom ke

 

Surat Chowthi

Brides Vakil says: An kahtu Nafsa Mauwak-kilati Vakalatan Anha wa-an Abiha Mauwak-kileka Alal Mehril Maloom

Nikah mein diya maine zaat Mauwak-kila apni ko Azrde vakalat ke isski taraf se aur iss ke Baap ki taraf se Maukil tere ko upar Mehr e Maloom ke

B. Grooms Vakil says: Qabiltun Nikaha Le-Maw-vak-kilati Maw-vak-kileka Alal Mehril Maloom 

Qubool kiya maine Nikah ko vaste Maukil apne ke upar Mehr e Maloom ke

Surat Panchwi

Brides Vakil says: Zawwajtu Maw-vak-kilati Maw-wak-kileka Alal Mehril Maloom

Tazweej mein diya maine Mawkila apni ko Mawkil tere ko upar Mehr e Maloom ke

B. Grooms Vakil says: Qabiltun Tazweeja Le Maw-wakeli Alal Mehril Maloom

Qubool kiya Maine Tazweej ko vaste Mawkil apne ke upar Mehr e Maloom ke

Surat Chetty

Brides Vakil says: Zawwajtu Maw-wakeleka Mawak-kelati Alal Mehril Maloom

Tazweej mein diya Maine Mawkil tere ko Mawkila apni ko upar Mehr e Maloom ke

B. Bridegrooms Vakil says: Qabiltun Tazweeja Le Maw-wakeli Alal Mehril Maloom

Qubool kiya maine Tazweej ko vaste Maukil apne ke upar Mehr e Maloom ke

Surat Sathwi

Brides Vakil says: Zawwajtu Maw-wakelati Min Maw-wakeleka Alal Mehril Maloom

Tazweej main diya Maine Maukila Apni ko Maukil tere ko upar Mehr e Maloom ke

B. Bridegrooms Vakil says: Qabiltun Tazweeja Le Maw-wakeli Alal Mehril Maloom

Qubool kiya maine Tazweej ko vaste Mawkil apne ke upar Mehr Maloom ke

 

 Aathwi Surat

Brides Vakil says: Zawwajtu Muvakilati Be Muwakilaka Alal Mehril Maloome

B. Bridegrooms Vakil says: Qabil toh Tazweeja le Mauwak kili Alal Mehril Maloome

Navi Surat

Brides Vakil says: Ankahtu wa Zawwajtu Mauwak kilati muwakilaka Alal Mehril Maloom

Bridegrooms Vakil says: Qabil toh Nikaha wat Tazweeja le Mauwakili Alal Mehril Maloome

If both the Bride and Bridegroom recite the segha of their Nikah

Then the Bride says first: Ankahtu nafsi Min Nafsika Alal Mehril Maloome

Bridegroom will say: Qabaltuka le nafsi Alal Mehril Maloome

The Dua which should be made by both the Groom and the Bride after the Nikah on the first night is as follows.    

The following Amal has been recommended for the first night after Bridegroom and Bride are together.

1.Try to be in wudu as much as possible, especially before doing the Amal.

2. Begin the Amal by Praising Allah (s.w.t) and then say Allahu Akbar (أللهُ أكَبر), followed by a Salawat i.e., Allah Humma Salle Ala Mohammad in Wa Ale Mohammad (أللهم صلى على محمّد و آل محمّد).

3. Recite a two Raka’t Salat (Namaz) with the Niyat (intention) of ‘Mustahab Qurbatan Illallah (s.w.t).  Two rakat namaz is a recommended Prayer to seek the pleasure of Allah(s.w.t) and after completion recite a Salawat (أللهم صلى على محمّد و آل محمّد).

4. Recite the following Dua, followed by a Salawat. First the groom should recite it, after which the bride should say: Ilahi Amīn [May Allah (s.w.t) accept this].

أَللٌّهُمَّ ارْزُقْنِي إِلْفَهَا وَ وُدَّهَا وَ رِضَاهَا وَ رَضِّـنِي بِهَا ثُمَّ اجْمَعْ بَيْنَـنَا بِأَحْسَنِ اجْتِمَاعٍ وَ أَسَرِّ ائْتِلاَفٍ فَإِنَّكَ تُحِبُّ

الْحَلاَلَ وَ تَكْرَهُ الْحَرَام.

“O Allah (s.w.t)! Bless me with her affection, love and her acceptance of me; and make me pleased with her, and bring us together in the best form of a union and in absolute harmony; surely You like lawful things and dislike unlawful things.”

5. Even if a couple are not intending to conceive on the wedding night, it is recommended that the following Duas are recited for righteous children (whenever they are conceived):
a. The groom should then place his right palm on the bride’s forehead facing Qibla and recite:

أَللٌّهُمَّ بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا وَ بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْـتُهَا فَإِنْ قَضَيْتَ لِي مِنْهَا وَلَداً فَاجْعَلْهُ مُبَارَكاً تَقِيًّا مِنْ شِيعَةِ آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وَ لاَ تَجْعَلْ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فِيهِ شِرْكاً وَ لاَ نَصِيباً.

“O Allah (s.w.t)! I have taken her as Your trust and have made her lawful for myself by Your words. Therefore, if you have decreed for me a child from her, then make him/her blessed and pious from among the followers of the family of Muhammad; and do not let the Satan have any part in him/her.”

     Some common issues both the spouses should try to work on after the Nikah

·         Communication Issues: The most common complaint among married couples is lack of communication. Many couples put up with problems rather than try to solve and fix them.  Both the man and his wife should be positive in their outlook and should know what they would like in their lives.

·         Never try to deceive each other by befriending other partners illicitly or spending more time with opposite sex which jeopardises your Nikah (marriage). In some cases people spend more time with opposite sex relatives stating one obligation or the other, instead of their life partners which traumatises the spouse.  This too should be avoided.

·         The bride should try to be a self-assured and confident woman. She should be sensible enough to stay in the means her husband provides her.  She should understand and be confident in her opinions and should help and listen to her spouse in areas and ideas of the marriage.

·         Both the bride and the bridegroom should try to be compassionate and merciful towards each other.  As the Holy Quran itself says in chapter 30-verse 21 that ‘one of the signs is that He created for you spouses among yourselves so that you may find comfort in them’.  Therefore, try to work on your marriage.  Make your marriage happy.  Spend quality time with each other.  Try hard and learn to be understanding, compassionate, merciful and loving towards each other because getting married is a blessing from Allah (s.w.t). Allah (s.w.t) has provided in more ways than one unlimited boon to us.  We should be thankful to him for his mercy. 

·         One among this unlimited boons is a mate he has granted all of us souls to give comfort in this world and hereafter.  The Quran states this in Chapter seven, verse 189: ‘It is He who created you from one soul and created from it its mate that he might dwell in security with her.’  Therefore, try to build and maintain a comfortable relationship with your spouse.

·         The Holy Quran further says in chapter 2 verse 187 ‘Your spouses are a garment for you as you are for them.’  We cannot comprehend the deeper and beautiful meaning of this verse but on superficial level we understand that it is a beauty and boon by the almighty lord that we have a spouse.  The verse conveys that both husband and wife are like a garment or covering for each other.  We should shield our partner from distress, worries, dishonesty and similar vices.  We should be a covering, a comforter, giver of happiness and helper in each other’s prayers and charity while we grow in our relationship with each other and with Allah (s.w.t)

·         The Holy Quran states in Chapter four, verse thirty-four that: ‘Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially.  And righteous women are devoutly obedient, and, when alone, protective of what Allah has instructed them with’.  Both the partners have their respective roles which they have to carry forward.  They should be pillar of support and strength to each other.  They should lead their live as a team.   

·         Lastly the Quran instructs us in Chapter four and Verse one, O humanity! Be mindful of your Lord Who created you from a single soul, and from it He created its mate, and through both He spread countless men and women. And be mindful of Allah — in Whose Name you appeal to one another — and honour family ties. Surely Allah is ever Watchful over you.” (Quran, 4:1) that being in a marriage is to honour sincerely the bounds tied together between a man and his woman prescribed by Allah (s.w.t) since the beginning of mankind when Adam and Eve were created.  Therefore, we should treat Nikah (Marriage) as a deeply faithful act of worship towards Allah (s.w.t) and carry forward this relationship with utmost respect and honour.

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